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Gary merrill uncontrollable lust11/8/2023 He gets performance anxiety and things will just spiral.) I feel uncomfortable when female friends decide to talk to me about how they forgot their BC today. ![]() (I'm not one for talking about sexuality openly. The problem compounds because it has been difficult to address because we both are quite touchy about the subject. I think this has come up because my partner and I have been on different wavelengths regarding lust and I was caught off guard because it wasn't something I thought I cared about in a partner. ![]() I think this has helped me investigate what was going on behind the surface and I think I have been able to come to an adequate conclusion. I really appreciate the detailed response. I think this kind of situation creates the perfect opportunity for something like that to happen, and it's quite unfortunate. In the past I've known people who fall into a sort of "trap" when they say that they love their partner but end up cheating in the spur of the moment. Honestly, if I was in your case, (or if my partner was in your case) I'd rather that he or I acknowledge that the emotions exist but recognize and make a conscious decision for what we do or do not want to do about it. Of course this is a really simplified approach and it doesn't always work. If I honestly don't like an emotion I'm experiencing, I would rather try to explore why I'm having this emotion and deal with it head-on. You can put yourself in different situations that may affect your emotions, but when it comes down to it, I think that telling yourself that having a certain emotion is wrong creates internal conflict that doesn't have an easy solution. You can control your actions, you can control your attitude and the way you approach things. I firmly believe that you should not ever feel bad for having emotions. Like I said before, I have never experience these overwhelming feelings.ĭo most of you INTJ'ers control your emotions to the same extent as me? Do you (INTJ'ers plase) think being too rational in terms of love gets in the way? Do any of you have any advice on how to make these feelings go away? I am very happy with my current bf, and I know that this relationship will last a very long time so the option of 'dating him instead' is not viable. I have tried a few things like focusing on how incompatible we are or focus on things that he likes, but I completely dislike. My first boyfriend and I were together for 1.5 years, and my current bf and I are at the 1 yr mark. (Background info) I am a hetero female INTJ and have always known what I have wanted in a SO. When I say lusting, I mean I have these feelings that are not based off of any real strong connection of personality attraction like I am used to. However, there is this adonis of a man (my artistic mind goes crazy on how proportionate he is) that I have worked with for the past two years that I cannot stop lusting over no matter how hard I've tried. ![]() With such a code, I have been able to not let my emotions control my actions effortlessly, only rational thought gets a say. I have lived my life that consequences of our actions should denote our behavior. I have been a long time lurker on reddit, but have never posted anything.Īs an INTJ, I feel like I have been very good at controlling my emotions. First, I want to apologize if this isn't a "proper post".
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